Monday, May 27, 2013

Random Act of Kindness

Today I'm participating in the Random Acts of Kindness Blogfest sponsored by Wayman Publishing. For the next few days bloggers all over the blogosphere will be posting about kindness in the hopes that readers will be inspired to share some joy with others. LAWD knows in this weird and wacky world we can all use some more lovin'!

As some of you know, my Dad is quite ill and I have been traveling back and forth to PA, not only to spend time with him, but also to make final arrangements and to get all of his affairs in order. Because my Mom is suffering from her own mental health issues, she is not able to assist. Being an only child living 8 hours away can be both beneficial and a pain in the ass. Trying to manage my own family, as well as deal with my parents' issues, has caused my stress level to rise to the boiling point. Fear not folks, this ol' gal ain't gonna boil over, rather, I just take to the bottle a bit more than usual to deal with the stress. In addition to my frequent buyer status at a couple of wine shops in town, the guy at the lickah store now knows me by name. Sad but true.

Anyway, several weeks ago while I was running errands, I received the following text message from my friend Desiree: "I dropped something off at ur front door.. Been thinking about u and ur Dad." I was positively shocked because I honestly did not realize she even knew my Dad was sick. Yes, we are friends, but Dez is the wife of one of my husband's partners and we rarely see each other outside of office functions. She is a young whippersnapper in comparison to me, we don't live close, and our lives just don't intersect that much. However, Dez is one of those rare folks who has such a pure heart and probably never had a malicious thought in her entire life (quite unlike me hey?)

When I got home I found this gorgeous orchid on my front porch. It's not really the orchid itself that is so special, it's the fact that Dez cared enough to take time out of her day with 3 small children to buy the flower and drive across town to hand deliver it to someone who was going through a rough time. Because of her random act of kindness I gave myself permission that day to grieve, really grieve for the impending loss of my Dad. When I cried it all out, I realized that no matter how much my life sucked right now, there were others who also needed a boost. How hard is it to reach out and spread some joy? It can be as simple as a smile or an old fashioned phone call to someone who is hurting. So, if you have ever been fortunate enough to be on the receiving end of a random act of kindness, I hope you remember how good it felt and want to pay it forward. That's what life's all about folks, that's what it's all about!

28 comments:

  1. Those small random acts of kindness as the recipient are so very special. Doing a random act of kindness is a good feeling also.

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  2. Such a refined and posh name that Dez has :P

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  3. Such a great thing to do, and never have a malicious thought in her life? Damn, that can't be fun lol

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  4. So sorry about your Dad, Very Sweet of Dez...

    PIF via RAOK is an awesome thing. "What it's all about."

    Have a great Monday, Slu

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  5. What a beautiful flower! That was so nice of her to drop it off!

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  6. It's the smallest of things that can make the biggest impacts on us.

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  7. this made me think of the saying... its not what you've done for another person, but how you made them feel that they will remember.

    I pray that you and your family be blessed with the love, peace, patience, and strength needed now and in the coming days...

    Thank you for sharing. :)

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  8. A great reminder that I need to do more random acts of kindness for other people. What a great friend you have. True friends are really hard to come by as you get older (yeah, I said it. It's true for me too).

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  9. Such a small act, but what an impact it had. Teaches us a lesson, doesn't it? Loved this!

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  10. Fantastic idea for a blogfest! It is amazing what one, simple, little thing can do for a person's day. Even on our suckiest days, there are good things happening all around us. So glad you are looking for and being a part of those good things.

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  11. What a sweet post. I can't tell you how sorry I am (once again) about your dad. I've been in a similar position (although the proximity to my dad was very close back then), and it is extremely stressful to watch someone you love so much slipping away.

    A small act of kindness has a huge impact on your emotional health. When we are dealing with this type of grief, we are touched by someone's thoughtfulness. Really touched. Desiree sounds like a kind soul; someone who is sensitive and compassionate.

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  12. Oh Deb! You are so deserving of the lovely surprise orchid. There have been many times on this blog of mine that you have lifted my spirits and have made MY DAY!!!

    Thank you for being there for me in this past year! Yes, it has even been over a year and you, my Deb, have been there for me!!!

    Give yourself a great big hug!!!!!!! Awh~~~~~~~

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  13. What a great reminder of how such small and simple acts can brighten someone's day. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

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  14. This is a great subject for bloggers - we could always use more kindness.
    My heart goes out to you sweet girl and wished we lived closer so i can drop a bottle of wine at your doorstep and then i could pop in and drink with you. :)

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  15. What a nice gesture from Dez. It's those little things like that that really make people's day.

    (Hugs) to you about your dad.

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  16. What a sweetheart of a gesture. I love that she reached out to you.

    I am sorry to hear about your dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  17. So sorry to hear about your dad! That was a very sweet gesture from your friend. Sometimes it just takes a small act like that to really lift the spirit :)

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  18. Love this--love you. Sending you big smooshie hugs today. Lost my dad exactly five years ago (MAY 26) so I feel your pain. Love and light to you, my friend. XO

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  19. So sorry about your Dad. The flowers were really a wonderful gesture from Dez. Hugs.

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  20. People seem to surprise every day

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  21. Sorry to hear about your dad, one true friend you have.

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  22. Just when I have about given up on people... Something like this restores my faith in humanity. Thank you for posting about it. You are lucky to know someone like Dez.

    Sorry to hear about your dad. You will get thru this and yes, I have been on a first name basis with my local liquor store owner. Not just the employees (All of them), but the owner for crying out loud. Did you check to see if they have a rewards program?

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  23. I'm sorry about your dad.

    Very nice orchid though.

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  24. What a great friend!
    And not only does the guy at the lickah store know my name, but he put my picture on the wall as "Customer of the Year."

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  25. A random act of kindness does wonders to a tired soul.

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  26. Granting yourself permission to grieve is one of the hardest acts to do. You have a good friend.

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  27. You're part of the sandwich generation - obligations to kids as well as aging parents. You all deserve a drink, a bunch of hugs, an orchid, and a chance to grieve. Acts of kindness shouldn't always be random. They should shower down on the likes of you and your generation.

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